As I type numerous updates on "the BookFace" (as my old boss used to refer to it), and proceed to delete most of them - as posting on Facebook is only a bonfire that's moments from becoming an out of control wildfire - I've been considering starting a blog to avoid all that. I'm not saying fires won't be started here, but I'm okay with the public debating topics - as most of my friends seem to lack that ability and I'd like to keep them as friends... sorry guys, but it's true.
Note that I used the word debate and not argue. I'm not here to argue with you on why you should do one thing and not another. I'm not here to sway you in any way. I am here to present my point of view and maybe you'll listen and learn something about me, about yourself, or maybe even about the topic at hand. Listening is the best skill for a debater (talking is the best skill of an arguer who takes no time to listen). Sometimes I lack this ability to listen, but I really try to see the other side of the fence. I may not agree with what's over there, but I want to know the why. The "Why" is just as important as the "What" for the topic at hand. If you cannot see through someone else's eyes and understand where their viewpoint comes from - you aren't listening or learning. Everything should be a learning experience.
As a disclaimer - I'm not saying every "Why" is a good reason, but it is a reason to understand where someone is coming from with their ideas, belief system, or actions.
Warning - I'm a firm believer in the Oxford Comma and the over use of ellipsis...
Nice to meet you! Hope we learn some things soon.
Note that I used the word debate and not argue. I'm not here to argue with you on why you should do one thing and not another. I'm not here to sway you in any way. I am here to present my point of view and maybe you'll listen and learn something about me, about yourself, or maybe even about the topic at hand. Listening is the best skill for a debater (talking is the best skill of an arguer who takes no time to listen). Sometimes I lack this ability to listen, but I really try to see the other side of the fence. I may not agree with what's over there, but I want to know the why. The "Why" is just as important as the "What" for the topic at hand. If you cannot see through someone else's eyes and understand where their viewpoint comes from - you aren't listening or learning. Everything should be a learning experience.
As a disclaimer - I'm not saying every "Why" is a good reason, but it is a reason to understand where someone is coming from with their ideas, belief system, or actions.
Warning - I'm a firm believer in the Oxford Comma and the over use of ellipsis...
Nice to meet you! Hope we learn some things soon.
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